The most influential years in my life consisted of my mother taking a no holds barred approach at teaching me life lessons. I was thrown in swimming pools to learn swimming, my hands were put on stove burners to learn that I shouldn’t touch things, I was locked outside my own home because sneaking out is bad. The the list goes on and on.
I also grew up with an older brother, whose biggest life lesson to me was given indirectly and inadvertently. I was able to witness, first hand, how a growing boy thinks. My brother, to this day, still thinks this way; confused by women, understanding mostly of his feelings and no one else’s. He is an adult now, but sometimes I question if he is still just a boy, simply trapped inside a man’s body.
I look at my significant other and question these things too. Do men ever really grow up? Cartons of milk being left in the refrigerator, towels hanging on door knobs, mail gone unopened for days, and reruns of Seinfeld play loudly in the background… never mind the crude laughter at the expense of old, overweight, and or ugly people.
While I am sure men ask the same about women… I can’t answer the question about men. If I could, I would be in a blissful state of psychic matrimony. But the answer for women is yes.. and no.
Women grow up to want better things. I think most times we all (women and men) grow up socialized to believe that neutral tones and sports utility vehicles equal grown up. We think that fully decorated rooms, and accent colors draw the line in the sand between “still getting there” and “there”. Women want a nice career with health insurance, a view; they want a 401K and maybe even a kid or two. Women want a nice car, a nice house, a claw foot bathtub, and nice skin. Women want a nice dinner, a nice kitchen, a nice well.. everything, and the same can be said of their copulation companions. Men want nice things too.
The thing about girls is.. they also want a nice partner. Nice men who can play both sides of that field- naughty and nice. Now that is hard to find. Yes, yes, dear readers, some women love the rough guy, trapped inside the “all American boy” body.. (Think Scott Peterson…look at what he turned out to be). You see, and I can admit this because I am a girl. When it comes right down to it, women don’t know what they want..
And really, who does?
From the very the small age that is “school age” girls have imagined themselves finding Romeo… someone perfect for them. Be him tall, handsome, spiritual, and rich, or someone with a motorcycle, full sleeves, and a sex toy addiction.. girls know what they want the very first time their very first crushes call them a name and push them on the playground. And as women get older nothing changes. We still don’t know what we want until it smacks us over the head or we discover a new treasure in a stranded retail aisle while shopping for towels. As we grow up, our attractions never change, we still love jerks who treat us like crap, and we still yawn and play sweetheart with nice guys who buy us drinks and open car doors. But isn’t that the beauty of it.. not looking for someone, or something, and then finding it anyway? Dating and attraction, are kind of like… shopping.
I mean, women know the material things that attract them but when it comes to love, who knows.
I think women want emotion most of all, which is where I truly believe most relationships fail. Because women are emotional, which sounds like a bunch of crap but even I have to hang my head to that one. And men most often shake their heads in disbelief, wanting no human to break down walls, barriers, or live through their torture techniques. Women don’t know what they want… they know what they kind of want. I know that I want someone who will make me soup when I am sick, someone who will spoon without being asked to, someone who kisses my forehead just as much as they kiss my love spot and someone who will just listen to what I am saying.
Not judge, not laugh, not snicker, just listen.
I kind of want someone who is tough.. not too tough.. someone who is caring but not a pansy… someone with financial stability but I don’t really care about money.. but he can’t be broke.. see what I am getting at?
Just know that at the very core of us, we all want to be able to vent. We want to be able to bitch freely and go to bed peacefully, without feeling judged. At times, we all want to get things off of our chests. And most men will find that unless you are dating a bitch, if you give a woman these things, emotion, an ear, a shoulder, a good dinner, chances are she will return the favor tenfold… meaning blowjobs are in your near future.
See, the thing about girls is… they want to help too. They want to be able to help people, others, YOU. They want you to confide, talk, get things off your chest. They want to communicate effectively verses arguing and getting nothing done. And sometimes they just need to be smacked in the ass and shown a little love in order for you to get your way.
And really, that is the thing about girls.. just when you think they have a formula, they change like the weather, and start heading the opposite way.
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